Real characteristics of homosexuality
Published on June 12, 2020
In the approach we consider useful, we highlight two absolute criteria: exclusivity and irreversibility.
Exclusivity of inclination
As can be seen from the Kinsey report, there are those who have more or less regular sexual intercourse with a same-sex partner, yet they cannot be called homosexual. If we want to formulate a more precise definition than the ordinary one, we have to say on the basis of what has been said so far: it is homosexual and only one who is only looking for a real or imaginary partner among the representatives of his own gender. However, this pleasing statement is not without its problems. What can be considered the criterion of exclusivity?
Since Freud, most schools of psychology testify as evidence that man has been an inherently bisexual being since birth. As each infant initially uses both hands, and it is only during development that a preference for one hand develops, so does the child’s sexual affiliation and orientation gradually unfold over the years, and it is decided whether the person will eventually enter the heterosexual majority or homosexual minority camp. will belong. What factors determine this affiliation will be discussed later in this chapter. In Chapter V, however, we will discuss in more detail that man is essentially a monogamous being.
The Church has been teaching this from the beginning, even though more and more people are questioning it today. Anticipating later proof, let us anticipate the credibility of this thesis and treat it as a fact now. At this point, however, it is clear that adult manifest bisexuality, whether simultaneously or alternately, does not fit into the order of creation. Anyone who comes into contact with partners of different sexes in parallel or alternately is engaged in bi- or polygamy, as the case may be. Notice that we are not concerned with the gender of the partners, but with their “number”. Perseverance with a single companion necessarily requires a decision from the bisexually oriented person. The protracted absence of this should be considered as a stalemate and fixation in the infantile - characteristic - bisexual developmental stage; in general: the stagnation of personality development at one point. Further psychological research would be needed to prove that this emotional immaturity can be treated, the will can be strengthened, so that the decision can be made in all cases with appropriate external (therapeutic), internal (self-knowledge) and “upper”, ie divine help. anchored at one end of said scale.
But at which end? The exclusive homosexuality of a man who, since the age of prepubertal, has only fantasized, dreamed, and possibly established a relationship with boys is clear. On the other hand, if we reject the category of manifest bisexuality on the basis of the above, can one who has occasionally attempted to form a coexistence called normal by society, in addition to the dominance of same-sex fantasies and relationships, be considered heterosexual? Where is the boundary line of “exclusivity” marked as a criterion?
It is more expedient to ask the question indirectly and try to answer it that way. According to this, we should also consider as exclusively homosexual a person who has tried the opposite sex, maybe got married, but has consistently had some kind of “deficiency disease” in his relationships with women, which in turn did not occur in the case of a same-sex partner. What are the shortcomings?
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a) Lack of sexual performance. It is rare, but to meet a man who effectively feels physical disgust with women and proves impotent in a sexual situation, even though he is producing one hundred percent performance with a male partner.
b) Lack of orgasm. Some who are de facto capable of the act also get to ejaculation, but still do not experience lust. Ejaculation devalues to the level of a mere biological event. As an alternative, you think of a male partner while making love to a woman; in which case the woman is nothing more than a physical aid to a homoerotic imagination of self-satisfaction.
c) Lack of harmony. It is common for someone to regularly show up to be able to have a heterosexual act, and even to enjoy it. It is not uncommon for such a man to marry, but at the same time his social life is accompanied by a constant feeling of vacuum. Forever the “no forced to struggle with the image of a ‘found partner’. Despite seemingly optimal physical coexistence, a partner of the opposite sex is emotionally and intellectually unable to fill in the gap in her life that ending one of the real goals of any relationship. Furthermore, he is aware that the feeling of disharmony is not caused by the person but by his unmistakable choice.
All of the cases described fall in the middle of the Kinsey scale, and in fact, if no actual gay contact has been made, it is conceivable that the heterosexual block. However, the scale refers to behavior, not inclination! In all three variations listed, he is homosexual we have to say it tends to be exclusive. Suppose that while that case a is objectively perceptible, in situation b, but even more so in situation c, the perception of deficiency is maximally subjective. In such cases, neither the partner, nor the physician, nor the priest, or the Holy See is competent to render the judgment. Only the subject can judge. But note: Subjective predisposition identification does not mean free choice of predisposition! The first is cognitive, the second is voluntary activity. However, the lack of free will in all cases precludes personal responsibility (i.e. in a moral theological context).
What does this mean in practice? If, as an outside observer, we perceive that someone who has had regular heterosexual intercourse suddenly or gradually “switches” to same-sex partner (s), then we should not hastily pass judgment. In this case, too, it is not necessarily a matter of freely chosen homosexuality, only that a person with an already homosexual attitude, with the struggle of long struggles, recognized with certainty his real inclination, and accordingly began to transform his slippery life.
If we then ask the question again, what is the proportion of people with an exclusively homosexual tendency in the population as a whole - then, unfortunately, it is already much more difficult to answer.